by michele
(texas)
I worked for a company for 20+ years. The last two were spent working at a different location. The supervisor was a very ill person. She was very disrespectful to her management team as well as her hourly associates. (mostly to management). I loved my job prior to this location. I tried and tried, but no matter what I did, I just could never do anything right. I tried different approaches to the job, tried talking to my immediate supervisors, I even tried talking to her (the boss) for ways to improve. Nothing would change. (None of them could give me answers by the way). when I was put on the overnight shift, I thought for sure this would be the turning point. This is the area where I always excelled. I was wrong…things got even worse. She was very ugly in the way she spoke to me. Very hateful. Very degrading. When she spoke to me and/or looked at me, it was like I was her worst enemy. She was not professional in speaking to me this way either. Most of the time it was not behind closed doors but out in front of hourly associates and/or customers. It got to the point that I was physically ill every night prior to going in to work. I cried each and every day when I got off of work. My family life was suffering. My son became aggravated (for lack of a better word) all the time and his grades began to suffer. I could not take it anymore and submitted my resignation.
Hi Michelle,
Your story is typical of what employees do when all of a sudden their worklife is turned upside down by a bully .. which in turn makes people physically ill, stressed out and generally, feeling things are out of their control.
I empathize with you. I would not tolerate being treated like this on a day to day basis either, but when it comes to unemployment benefits I have to ask you the same questions I always ask.
Did the employer have a grievance policy in the handbook for you to use to seek resolution?
From what you wrote .. I would say getting unemployment would at best, be a tough go for you .. because I’m not seeing those “efforts to preserve the job”.
This is what I saw .. I tried and tried, but no matter what I did, I just could never do anything right. I tried different approaches to the job, tried talking to my immediate supervisors, I even tried talking to her (the boss) for ways to improve. Nothing would change.
And this is my question. If she was such a nasty ass .. why were you trying to improve .. or placate her?
Why didn’t you go to HR and tell them the ugly things she said to you? My point is why, after twenty years did you have to change and improve in the way you did your job .. why didn’t you try to make the efforts to have the horrible person that had authority over your job performance and a detrimental power over your own personal life have to account for her bullying behavior?